My
fellow unmarried women, it’s not that I have a vendetta against you; I
just want to address some of the things you do, which I think are
supremely silly. Yes, I’m ranting about the unmarried women today. This
post is targeted at, but not limited to desperate unmarried women.
I
know that marriage has always been an important thing for many women,
but the race for it today is becoming so bad, it’s almost diabolic. Yes,
many women are doing all sorts of infernal things to get stay married.
Young woman that wants to get married, pause a bit and ask yourself this
important question: why do I want to get married?
I ask you to
do this because your reason for getting married may very well determine
the kind of man you hook up with. If you want to be happy in your union,
you’ll carefully and prayerfully choose a spouse. But if you want to be
married because all your friends are, or because your family thinks so
or because society says your clock is ticking, you may very well end up
making the wrong choice. Such as a man that abuses you-be it physically,
verbally, emotionally or psychologically.
No matter what you say,
there are always signs of an abuser, whether he’s a budding or
full-blown practitioner of the punching, verbal or emotional slicing
arts.
When a man makes you stay on a video chat for 24 hours,
just so that he can see where you are at all times, he’s an abuser.
Please don’t tell me that “he’s just a bit jealous” or “you know men are
like that”….that’s not “a bit” of jealousy and not all men are like
that!
When a man makes you take pictures of yourself and send it
to him 24 hours a day, so he knows where and who you’re with, my sister
you’re in bondage…..only that your master hasn’t paid your purchase
price. Any man that makes you do this, under the guise that his heart
has been broken by the previous women in his life and therefore, you
need to earn his trust, is a confirmed wizard. He needs Jesus and you
need a copy of the Slavery Abolition Act of 1833.
When a man
flings objects at you during an argument, throws and breaks his phone
against the wall and says “Look what you made me do,” he will one day
throw you and blame you for it. You’d better run away and from that far
distance, text him the number of a psychiatrist and enrol him for an
anger management course.
When a man tells you that once you get
married, because his mother did it, you too will pound yam for him while
you’re nine months pregnant, wash his car, feed your three children and
drop them off at school, clean the house, do the family laundry, go
shopping etc. without help of any sort, I’ll only say this: are you
familiar with the letters R.U.N?
When you’re in a relationship
with a man who arbitrarily picks up your phone, deletes some male
contacts, text messages, grills you whenever you pick a call from a man,
logs into your Facebook account and abuses and warns off all the men
who say nice things to you, tells you which friends to keep and the ones
to dismiss, and short of getting you a bodyguard, monitors your
movements in every way possible, I’d like to inform you that that man is
not man who loves you, but a monitoring, familiar spirit. The earlier
you’re delivered from him, the better for you.
Having said that,
I’d like to add that some of this kind of men can smell desperation and
know that there’s little or nothing you can or would want to do to them.
So my advice to you dear prospective bride, is build your
self-esteem, be proud of who you are, be picky (yes, contrary to popular
opinion, you don’t have to drag the bottom of the barrel), and know
that you deserve a good man. Take your time; because once you make your
choice, you’re stuck with him. Don’t be in haste- for where the hare
gets to by running, the tortoise will arrive there by walking.
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